Here is one of the ways my introversion manifests... I have no trouble performing in front of a large group of people. No problem at all. But the group that I am singing with... just me and a fiddle and a bass... somehow has it in its head (the collective head) that we will be doing "house parties."
Like as in we will go over to someone's house and they will invite one or two dozen friends and then we will do a teaching sing-along with them.
My idea of a good time? Take 2 or more dozen people, put them in a PUBLIC building and sing. And if people want to sing along that is great. I don't actually want to interact with them in a cozy setting. I don't want to know their names. Unless I already do.
If I know their names I don't need to forget them. That would be entirely optional. (I am terrible with names. Unless they are the names of my students. Hmong and Karen names of the under-18 set and I'm golden.)
So either the collective head of my oddball gospel bluegrass singalong group will have to bow to my extreme introversion, or the introversion will have to bow to the group. Which I probably will do, but I will have trouble making a joyful noise.
We heard Lucy Wainwright Roche perform recently and when she was asked what her least and most favorite places to perform... they were the same kind of "house party." Because of the intimacy involved and not entirely knowing what to expect.
A stage is a stage is a stage. Even if it isn't a stage. So long as it isn't in someone's actual living place!
I don't go to regular parties at people's houses. Ask my friends. Ask my close friends. Ask my family. Okay, I will make it to things like Thanksgiving and Christmas and some birthdays. But if it is a get-together "for fun..."
Well, I am not fun.
So please do not invite us to your house to sing. You are welcome to invite us to your place of worship for a potluck or post-service get-together. Or heck, throw a party on public property and let me pretend that its a bunch of strangers who are just there for the music.
Grateful crap: plumbing
not so sick anymore. Energy to stay up past 7pm (I've been first-month-of-school sick)
taking my meds 200mg lamotrigine, 20mg lurasidone
Quaker, teacher, parent,